#49 Don’t Feed The Trolls

June 11, 2012 — 10 Comments

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The internet is a strange place, sometimes bringing out the best in people, but far too often displaying the worst in people.

Recently on another website I saw someone had left a comment that was equal parts critical and nonsensical.

I made the mistake of trying to engage the person in a discussion that would help us to understand each other, but that person seemed more interested in name calling and self-important ridicule than edifying anyone.

Although I tried my best to give that person the benefit of the doubt, I eventually got to the point where continuing the conversation became a waste of time because they clearly didn’t want any part of honest community participation.

So I moved on.

Thankfully, to this point I’m not popular enough for this to happen very often on any of my websites and I generally don’t comment on sites that have communities with derogatory natures, but that doesn’t mean that people who are negative for negativity’s sake don’t seep through the cracks.

What does the Bible say to do when faced with such circumstances (either online or a more personal line of communication), how should we react?

I always go back to the two choices that are outlined in the Proverbs:

Do not answer a fool according to his folly, Lest you also be like him.

Answer a fool according to his folly, Lest he be wise in his own eyes.

-Proverbs 26: 4-5

There are basically two options when faced with we call “trolls”, those who leave negative, pointless comments for the sake of provoking others in a way that disrupts a fruitful conversation of the matter at hand.

The first is to just ignore them. They really aren’t worth your time and if they get what they want out of you they win because they bring you down to their level.

The second is to turn it around on them, making such a strong case that they are embarrassed by their original comments.

People rarely get embarrassed online, so I tend to go with the first option and move on. Don’t let them win.

What do you do when someone is trolling you, distracting you from walking in the light of Christ?

Tyler Hess

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Tyler Hess runs Undistracted Christian and he lives in Vista, California with his wife Beth and daughter Ellie.
  • http://danblackonleadership.com Dan Black

    Great passage and point.

    I don’t allow people to leave comments like that. I protect the people who read and comment on my blog. I’m fine if it’s toward me but if you go after my readers comment or thought they better watch out.

    • http://www.undistractedchristian.com Tyler Hess

      yea, i think for us bloggers it is important to have a comment policy so we don’t have websites that end up like youtube comments!

  • http://nurturingcreativity.net Denise

    wow, great timing on this post.. I just had a similar experience, and I was so drained after, I almost turned off comments on my blog permanently.
    I really think sometimes people are trying to draw attention to themselves as much as possible so you’ll click on their link.

    excellent advice here, and lesson learned for me!

    • http://www.undistractedchristian.com Tyler Hess

      oh thats a bummer! i dont think its best to cut off all commenting because of a few bad apples, that would be like taking away recess because one kid said a bad word, everyone else would be bummed and it would be hard to have a community, its best to either delete those comments or block them…having a comment policy is a great idea, especially when a site like yours gets so many!

  • http://www.lincolnparks.com Lincoln Parks

    I try to respond respectfully if not delete button here we come.

    • http://www.undistractedchristian.com Tyler Hess

      haha it is a nice little button to have, too bad it only applies when you run a blog :)

  • http://ontheeasel.com john

    Meaningful interaction involves facial expression and body language….not a strong suit of the web. That was valuable advice, thanks.

    • http://www.undistractedchristian.com Tyler Hess

      thanks John…it isn’t the strong suit, for sure, but we can overcome that through showing grace even online. the written word is powerful (otherwise the Bible wouldn’t be so amazing), we just need to express ourselves according to the Spirit and not according to the flesh, refraining from useless arguments

  • http://www.lifeofasteward.com Loren Pinilis

    I haven’t really had a ton of that, but I’ve had a little. I thought it was actually kinda an honor in a strange way that someone cared enough about my opinion to try and shake me up over it. I didn’t respond though.

    • http://www.undistractedchristian.com Tyler Hess

      That’s funny what you said about it being an “honor”, because when I get some nasty comment I think back to an episode of that old Murphy Brown show, where someone talks about having framed their first hate letter, somehow that made them feel like they had “made it”.